碎金集 2021 Fortuitous Gold Nuggets 2021 第 05 篇 Section 05
四月 骗局突围，待吾玉成 April: Breaking Out of the Trap, Awaiting Self-Fulfillment
返回 碎金集 2021 Back to Fortuitous Gold Nuggets 2021艺术，能称之为艺术的东西，都具有其自身的封闭的科学体系。这是其在发展到一定尺度后自然发展起来的。以琴棋书画与诗歌小说为例，其必然有一套远离大众的价值体系。达达主义、后现代主义这些名词，若不是高考谁又能在日常生活中接触到？更别说理解应用了。
Art—whatever can truly be dignified as art—possesses its own closed, disciplined system. This evolves naturally once it matures to a certain degree. Taking the four arts of the scholar alongside poetry and the novel as examples, they invariably operate under a value system removed from the masses. Terms like Dadaism and postmodernism—who would ever encounter them in daily life if not for the Gaokao? Let alone comprehending and applying them.
精神上的贫富差距并没有物质上的贫富差距那么惹人注目，却在无声无息中决定了一个人世界的大小。也许正因如此，陶潜才能自适地“闲饮东窗”，做到“陶然共忘机”。
The gap between spiritual wealth and poverty is by no means as conspicuous as material disparity, yet it silently determines the breadth of an individual’s universe. Perhaps it was precisely because of this that Tao Yuanming could so serenely “drink at leisure by the eastern window” and achieve that tranquil state of “forgetting all worldly scheming in blissful ease.”
《围城》里方鸿渐去周家，鸿渐亡妻之弟见他既不会篮球、也没有什么新奇花样，只会应付几门功课，便对其不屑一顾。我又何尝不是如此呢？
In Fortress Besieged, when Fang Hongjian visited the Zhou residence, the younger brother of Hongjian’s deceased wife held him in utter disdain upon finding that he neither played basketball nor possessed any novel tricks, capable only of coping with a few academic subjects. Am I not in truth the very same?
应试教育固然公平，但是否磨灭了我的一些闪光点，局限了学生的可能性？从“公平”的骗局中突围，需要的不只是努力，更需要一种俯瞰全局的游刃有余。
Exam-oriented education is undoubtedly fair, but has it rubbed away some of my shining edges and constricted the possibilities of a student? Breaking out from the trap of nominal “fairness” demands far more than mere toil; it necessitates a bird’s-eye mastery of the entire board, maneuvering with effortless ease.
当家长担心我沉迷手机时，家长是否想过：手机对我的意义是什么？我没办法放下手机背后的成长诉求是什么？
When parents worry that I am addicted to my phone, have they ever paused to consider: what is the meaning of the smartphone to me? What underlying developmental longings fuel my inability to lay it down?
是我渴望陪伴，渴望交流，渴望认同，渴望归属……网上遇到知音，游戏里获得队友，朋友圈和QQ空间中得到认同……凡此种种，满足了我的社交需求、归属与爱的需求、尊重的需求，甚至自我实现的需求。
It is that I crave companionship, crave conversation, crave recognition, crave belonging… Finding kindred spirits online, gaining teammates in video games, securing affirmation on WeChat Moments and Qzone… All of these fulfill my social needs, my need for belonging and love, my need for esteem, and even my need for self-actualization.
欲无杂草，必须种上庄稼。要把我从虚拟的手机世界中拉回来，必须让我在现实世界中能满足这些需求，去看电影、阅读、运动、旅游等，去做更有价值更有意义的事情。我想，这才是治本之道。而这点，我还没有做到。
To rid a field of weeds, one must plant grain upon it. To haul me back from the virtual realm of the smartphone, I must be enabled to satisfy these cravings in the real world: going to the cinema, reading, exercising, traveling, and throwing myself into endeavors of greater value and meaning. I believe this alone tackles the root cause. And on this front, I have yet to succeed.